Designing a Life in Motion
Meet our dear friend Spencer, a radiant soul who reminds us to live boldly and savor the beauty tucked inside everyday moments. In this piece, he reflects on balance, freedom, and designing a life that feels true, inspiring us to keep choosing a life filled with zest, intention, and joy. Thank you, Spencer, for sharing your heart with us.
To me, life has always felt incredibly precious - like time is running out faster than I can hold onto it. For much of my early twenties, that urgency showed up as a constant hum in the background: Am I doing enough? Am I becoming who I’m supposed to be?
But in recent months, with the help of meditation, journaling, and yes, medication, I’ve been able to slow down enough to notice the beauty in the moment. For the first time in a long time, I feel calm. That calm feels revolutionary in a world that constantly asks us to sprint. It feels like the luxury I used to chase in jobs, relationships, or titles. And as I look at friends, colleagues, and loved ones who are also searching for stability—whether in career independence or financial literacy - I keep coming back to the idea that stability has been one of my lifelong touchstones.
But stability doesn’t have to mean sameness.
Growing up queer, I was lucky enough to be surrounded by people and spaces that not only accepted me but encouraged me to explore, adapt, and grow. That embrace of selfhood in my younger years was formative, but what feels different now is that I’m actively designing my life, piece by piece. It’s not static, but it is intentional. And while the shape of it changes, my passion and sense of self never stray.
Astrology has always been a soft framework for me in this process of self-discovery. As a Libra, I’ve been told balance is my compass- and in so many ways, that’s true. But what I’ve learned is that balance isn’t about perfection, it’s about movement. Libras are indecisive, sure, but we’re also endlessly adaptable. We’re drawn to beauty, to art, to connection. We hold contradictions tenderly. And when I look at the arc of my life so far -the shifts between artistic ambition, survival jobs, and spiritual practices - it feels deeply Libra: always in search of harmony, but never afraid of evolution.
Success, to me, has never had a single definition. Everyone’s toolkit looks different, and the units of measurement are endlessly varied.
In the entertainment world especially, the question I hear all the time is: But is it sustainable? And my answer is always the same -it’s as sustainable as you allow it to be. Every actor, artist, and creative person I know has worked a so-called “day job.”
They’re often labeled as traps, but I don’t see it that way.
I work to live, not the other way around.
Those jobs fund my art, my curiosity, my freedom. And freedom, more than anything, is the life I’m after.
I think often about the little things that now feel like markers of success: slow mornings where I can make coffee without rushing, afternoons spent journaling in the park, nights spent laughing with chosen and true family. There’s an intimacy in the ordinary that I once overlooked because I was too busy measuring my worth in achievements. Now, I understand that the quietest moments are sometimes the loudest reminders of who I am.
If queerness taught me anything, it’s that identity is both fluid and fiercely yours. If astrology has taught me anything, it’s that balance is found in embracing dualities. And if life itself has taught me anything, it’s that joy doesn’t come from ticking the right boxes — it comes from building a life that feels like yours. So here I am: working, breathing, creating, living. With immense privilege, I’m free to enjoy each moment, and I promise myself to keep doing exactly that. Because what else is there?
What I’ve come to realize is that balance isn’t about choosing one fixed path — it’s about continually shaping a life that reflects who you are becoming. That’s what feels most aligned with Siela’s vision too: a life where meaning is woven into every choice, where growth is embraced, and where living itself becomes an act of art.
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Thank you, Spencer, for sharing your heart with us.
If his words inspired you, or if you know someone whose story belongs here, we’d love to hear from you.